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This conclusion was reached by Yuri Ryurikov, a well-known “love specialist,” after a long journey from his first book, “Three Trains,” to the published first volume of his encyclopedic trilogy “Love and Family at the Turn of Time.” It’s been a road spanning 25 years.
What does he mean by this?
First and foremost, he points to our psychological illiteracy, our inability to love and cherish one another. This often leads to divorces or to marriages that have crumbled internally, meaning they persist only for the sake of the children. Even in seemingly happy families, close relatives communicate less and less, opting instead for newspapers, television, or computers… It turns out that the better off they are, the less free time they have for each other, as it gets consumed by material possessions.
– Life’s challenges and financial struggles do not kill love; rather, they bring loving people closer together. This realization is very important to me. I hesitated for a long time before coming to this conclusion, – says Yuri Borisovich. He explains: simple arithmetic of feelings suggests that needs always drain our emotional energy (the kind we could direct toward love), leaving only fatigue, irritation, and anxiety. However, this arithmetic does not apply to happy people—they approach their relationships algebraically. In other words, they invest their emotional energy not in worrying about various material needs but in caring for their loved ones.
What does such behavior protect us from? What rewards does it bring? Material deprivation is inevitable. Moreover, this concept is quite vague and relative, especially considering our current crisis. For most people, it typically leads to a bad mood, which they often take out on their closest family members, further worsening the situation. Happy individuals, on the other hand, handle it differently—they share their troubles equally.
– Their principle is “the worse the conditions, the better the relationships”—one of the most resilient foundations of happiness, – believes the psychologist.
